tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post1060987340296078850..comments2023-07-08T07:59:38.330+01:00Comments on Have children or not - Coaching on the Baby Decision: What if you don't want children but your husband or partner does?Bethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17162958646582442895noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-25505001917615190622014-04-12T17:35:27.387+01:002014-04-12T17:35:27.387+01:00I am 44, have a beautiful 21 year old daughter, an...I am 44, have a beautiful 21 year old daughter, and after 4 years of trying to have a baby naturally with my 55 year old husband (and fully financially supporting us for 5 years) I realize I am done. I have given it all I am willing to give. My current husband never had children. When I finally mustered the courage to tell him I am not having anymore kids, his response was divorce. He said he will find a younger woman and have the 2 kids he has always wanted, one way or another.<br />I gave him my heart, my complete investment on every level, but I cannot deny what is true for me, knowing the lived reality of what having children entails. So I am letting him go, the man I deeply love, to make this vision happen for himself with someone else.LDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08878095284079589395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-5754527090428919602012-09-06T00:27:57.220+01:002012-09-06T00:27:57.220+01:00Over at my blog (http://:www.childlessbymarriage.b...Over at my blog (http://:www.childlessbymarriage.blogspot.com), I also get mostly women whose male partners don't want children, but sometimes it's the reverse and the men are the ones aching to have kids. Part of it is biology, but I also think men are more reluctant to talk about these things. In my own case, my husband knew I wanted children and he did feel terribly guilty about not giving them to me, although not guilty enough to change the situation. I think your post helps clear the air for both parties, and I look forward to your future posts on this.Sue Fagalde Lickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14740379397806418651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-85307635924556536152012-08-22T15:17:25.514+01:002012-08-22T15:17:25.514+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Dr. Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07840957617776406033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-78194557943185559232012-08-22T15:16:04.701+01:002012-08-22T15:16:04.701+01:00I relate to your key reasons. I don't know why...I relate to your key reasons. I don't know why I think I don't want children - my mind is blank on this subject even though I love my little nephews and nieces so much it hurts. I am 36 and my husband doesn't like change or anything that takes my attention away from him. Could this be a contributing factor maybe?? Recently I have found myself constantly playing this over in my mind. Still no answer!...Dr. Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07840957617776406033noreply@blogger.com