tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post2302536425257962299..comments2023-07-08T07:59:38.330+01:00Comments on Have children or not - Coaching on the Baby Decision: Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs revisitedBethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17162958646582442895noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-80796437246614471252010-10-02T04:22:23.323+01:002010-10-02T04:22:23.323+01:00Oh, dear. I think it's certainly misguided to...Oh, dear. I think it's certainly misguided to claim that parenting and marriage are the be-all and end-all of happiness. I have read many great research papers and books on happiness. From them, it quickly becomes clear that happiness has very little to do with anything that can be quantified in a "check box" kind of way. Achievements - work, home or otherwise - are merely belt notches and don't in themselves contribute to well-being.<br /><br />I actually like "self-actualization" better because it is non-specific and flexible to a great many goals and needs. It says: do what you want, and be happy doing it! Not so much hedonism as good psychological health practice, in my opinion. Promoting ONE particular life outcome - cisgender, heterosexual, patriarchally oriented, heteronormative, monogamous, pronatalist - among countless many as the "peak" of human existence is simple minded beyond belief.931dmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00734466638599877616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-23924415908969480752010-09-30T04:39:23.300+01:002010-09-30T04:39:23.300+01:00On the concept of being useful to society, having ...On the concept of being useful to society, having a child is definitely high, if not top, on the list. Being single and nurturing is not contributing to society; you aren't directly influencing the future with your own genes. Only on that fact do I agree.Pandor42https://www.blogger.com/profile/03267286971039085391noreply@blogger.com