tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post7295338366979141504..comments2023-07-08T07:59:38.330+01:00Comments on Have children or not - Coaching on the Baby Decision: Random ResearchBethhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17162958646582442895noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-10035538949326607112008-02-04T09:16:00.000+00:002008-02-04T09:16:00.000+00:00Hi Expat Mom - I've noticed there tends to be a di...Hi Expat Mom - I've noticed there tends to be a divide between people who have always assumed they would have kids (and therefore never saw it as a decision) and people who do see it as a decision that needs to be made. More and more women I think are seeing it as a decision and there are increasing amounts of people deciding to be childfree which points to this. Also, as patterns of relationships change, alot of women aren't in a relationship with a life partner till later in life - which often means they do have decide whether to have kids or leave it. A friend of mine is 44 and has been single for a decade. Now she is in a relationship with a nice bloke, they are talking about maybe having children. But for her, she is aware how difficult it will be and doesn't want to spoil what could be a lovely new relationship with the anxiety about trying to have a baby.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17162958646582442895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-65372626144284042022008-02-04T01:55:00.000+00:002008-02-04T01:55:00.000+00:00Hi there - happened upon your blog which I find fa...Hi there - happened upon your blog which I find fascinating. Being an ex-professional, university and masters degree holder, I am still finding that with me and most of my friends, we didn't sit down and "make" a decision about when or if, to have children. I didn't meet the man I wanted to marry till I was 26, and didn't marry till 28. (Not old I know). Had two children at 31 and 34, then thought I was finished. had my "bonus baby" at 41, which changes your life plans, such as they can be, yet again.<BR/>One thing I have seen is that the friends I have who took the decision to wait to have children, even if they married young, all had problems and agonies conceiving.Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-71634926204921695732008-01-30T04:16:00.000+00:002008-01-30T04:16:00.000+00:00In general I like social policies that ensure that...In general I like social policies that ensure that there is not a huge gulf between upper and lower class people. I’m not against using taxes to ensure that things like health care and education can be offered to everybody, not just those with money. If there are people suffering, and there is money available to distribute to them, I am happy for them to have it, and I hope it helps them.<BR/><BR/>But – I am not likely to ever agree with social policies that just aim to encourage higher birth rates:<BR/><BR/>a) It would appear that birth rates would increase if women’s education was lowered, but I would fight against any policy that deliberately aimed to lower any group’s average education levels.<BR/><BR/>b) I also don’t think that women should be given any incentives to have children. This practice would encourage women to have a child even if they are not ready to be a mother, which is not good for the child! On a wider level, I find policies like this reprehensible because they promote motherhood as being better than the other options that are available to women.decidedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16142216781489877275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-89200974258104904302008-01-30T04:15:00.000+00:002008-01-30T04:15:00.000+00:00In Western countries women have been accepted as s...In Western countries women have been accepted as separate entities to their fathers and husbands. They have the right to vote, become educated, and the ability to choose a career and be financially independent. These societies have also accepted scientific advancements that allow women the freedom to choose when or if they want to have children.<BR/><BR/>It does not surprise me that these freedoms are affecting the average age at which women are starting to consider becoming mothers. Women are finding fulfilment in wildly varying ways, which means that having a child is not a foregone conclusion.decidedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16142216781489877275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-28147378165255020652008-01-29T10:26:00.000+00:002008-01-29T10:26:00.000+00:00Some people desperately want children and are bles...Some people desperately want children and are blessed with them. Some don't want them and remain happily child-free. Some want them and are never able to conceive or bear children for one reason or another. Some don't want them but easily fall pregnant. Being a parent is a huge commitment but also hugely fulfilling. But others find fulfillment in other ways. If anyone is lucky or smart enough to have their life choices fulfilled, then all the better. And all the better those who are able to cope with what life has given them.wakeupandsmellthecoffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04602735058278146250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9130952057525576311.post-83088990048902681652008-01-29T09:01:00.000+00:002008-01-29T09:01:00.000+00:00well I don;t know that I count as highly qualified...well I don;t know that I count as highly qualified as I didnt go to university - mine was more life chances.Flowerpothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14102679179201725732noreply@blogger.com