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Friday, 27 January 2012

Careers & having a family: Do they mix?

I found this Conture - a magazine/website for architects. The article explores the gender gap in top management. The writer makes this point:

'An additional obstruction for women, especially those interested in attaining top management positions, are the concomitant issues of child-bearing and child-raising at the crucial time in their careers when they either have to choose to have children or forgo them to pursue their careers. Men do not have that worry since, the world over, men still do not perform primary care duties, which also happens to be both unpaid and domestic labor.'
Following on from my last post, someone brought this advice column query 'Is it madness to think about having children at age 45?'

In the article the writer lists all the women who have had children in their 40's including:

'Cherie Blair was 45 when she had Leo, Jane Seymour had twins at 44, Susan Sarandon gave birth at 46, supermodel Imam, actress Meera Syal and swimmer Sharron Davies at 44, movie stars Geena Davis and Holly Hunter each had twins at 48 and 47 respectively, and choreographer Arlene Phillips had a baby at 47. '

Monday, 16 January 2012

Should I have kids if I'm over 40?

Statistics show many more women now are leaving it till later to have kids. As I've mentioned before in this blog, we are extending our period of 'youth' often way into our 30's. This is not a bad thing of course! But unfortunately, our biology still means it is more difficult (despite advances in reproductive technology) to get pregnant after 40. There is a great deal of unfair judgement on women who have children later in life ~ after all, it's fairly acceptable for men to have children well into their 50's and 60's!

Although the majority of my clients are in their 30's, I have worked with a number of clients over 40 who are seeking to resolve the question of whether they have kids or not. My feeling, like this article points out, 'In the debate over “how old is too old,” many say the benefits for children of older parents are too often not taken into account, financial security and wisdom chief among them.'

I also suggest that clients take a long, through look at options like adoption or fostering. There is no longer an age limit on adoption (other than that there should be no more than 50 years between yourself and a child you adopt) and this might be an excellent option for those who don't want to go through the trials of IVF or who have found it hasn't worked for them.

Tuesday, 10 January 2012

'What is the point of having kids?'

That's the question posed in this article in the Washington Post called 'What is the point of having kids if your life ends when theirs begins?'

Yup. I've heard this many times before from clients who have heard all the tales from mothers about the difficulty of juggling work, interests and kids. Why have kids then? Some of the comments at the end of this article on the reasons why people have choosen to have children are thoughtful and reflective and some are knee jerk reactions but there are different perspectives on the question!

Tuesday, 3 January 2012

Do I want to be a mother?

Here's a short piece called 'Do I want to be a Mother?' in Glamour magazine from last year about a report that shows that fewer women are choosing to be mothers. What I find more interesting are all the comments underneath ~ many different perpectives and viewpoints!