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Thursday, 26 November 2015

Ambivalent about having children

So many individuals feel ambivalent about whether to have children or not.

Interview on BBC Radio Tees - Making the Decision to have children or stay childfree

I just appeared on BBC Radio Tees this morning talking about the decision women make to be childfree in a discussion with presenter Mike Carr and writer Kate Spicer.   Holly Brockwell, who I mentioned in yesterdays blog post was also on the programme just before us, talking about her experience.

My main point was that we need to move beyond women being seen as either successes OR failures based whether they have children or not.  One of the questions Mike asked me is what I think is helpful advice for women who are trying to decide whether to have children or not.  I think it's really important to work out whether you are being led by a fearful belief (for example, I'm worried I might not be a good mother) or not.  I also agreed with the other Kate Spicer that it's important to acknowledge that sometimes we can't have it all, that we might want children but life and circumstances have prevented that happening.

If you would like to listen to the discussion, you can go to the Listen Again Mike Carr 26 November 2015 and go to about 1 hour 22minutes in - I should appear about 5 minutes after that.  There was some discussion prior to this so if you'd like to listen to the whole segment, just rewind abit! I hope you enjoy the show!

Wednesday, 25 November 2015

Woman attacked on Twitter for saying she doesn't want children

And if any proof was needed about the stigma faced by women who decide they don't want children, this article was just published on the BBC website from a woman who featured in an article I mentioned yesterday on the blog.  The social disapproval on women who make this choice make it more difficult for women who are struggling with the decision of whether to have children or not.

"I am used to trolling as I run a women's tech website but even I was affected this time because it was so vitriolic, so personal and nasty, and so specific about me and my professional life - not even about the issue of having children which I had been writing about." - Holly Brockwell

Tuesday, 24 November 2015

I don't want children - Choosing to be Childfree

Many women make the choice to be child-free - but there is still a stigma attached to this choice.  The BBC magazine has published a great interview with several women who have made that choice.

Thursday, 19 November 2015

More women over 35 having their first child

Another report today on the larger numbers of women over 35 years old who are giving birth.

As the author of this article points out,

'For many of us, having a child well into our thirties or forties isn’t a “choice”. What about if the person you’re dating when you’re 26 isn’t the one? But even if someone does choose to delay motherhood – for whatever reason – it’s not something to feel bad about.'

Saturday, 14 November 2015

Can I afford to have children?

As this generation faces unreachable house prices, debt, skyrocketing fees for university the question of whether they will be able to afford to have children.  

Many of those who are Millennials are facing increasing debt, rising house prices and more job insecurity than previous generations.  So how is this affecting their decision to have children... or not? This fascinating article addresses this issue.