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Wednesday, 31 December 2008

Economic Crisis and the decision to have children

This interesting article appeared this week in a Settle newspaper. It looks at how the recession is affecting couples decision whether to have children or not. Apparently, this happened in the last recession and it was called a 'Baby Bust'.

I'd like to wish all my regular readers a very happy New Year and I look forward to hearing from you all in 2009!!

Sunday, 21 December 2008

Another blogger on deciding whether to have children or not

I came across this reflective post from a woman blogger on her and her partners decision whether to have children or not. Here it is!

Sunday, 14 December 2008

A perspective from a woman artists

This article came through my in-box - it's a very thoughtful reflection by a woman artist on her decision to have children.

I love how she refers to history - to the history of women artists who felt they had to choose between having children and their art. And her own process of making decisions is very thoughtful.

Friday, 12 December 2008

Should I freeze my eggs?

Today this fantastic article came out in the Guardian - the writer is worried that her time is running out and decided to explore the possiblity of freezing her eggs - for the future when she might decide she does want children.

I do get asked this question by clients I coach and I refer them to websites and specialists. But my personal view is that freezing eggs is no solution really. As the writer of the article describes, it is a painful and lengthly procedure (just like IVF - you need to inject hormones and then your eggs are harvested). And it is expensive.

As the writer of the article notes:

'I began this process believing there was a magical solution to my biological limits, that I could somehow cheat time and put off-deciding whether or not I wanted children. But egg-freezing is not the solution: it can only provide women with a choice that comes with a very high cost - financial, physical and psychological'

Thursday, 11 December 2008

Sterotypes of Childfree Women

I came across this witty column looking at one of the most silly sterotypes of women who are childfree - that of the 'Crazy Cat Lady'.

The columnist is great - really funny but points out that men who don't have children and who are into dogs are not tarred with the 'Crazy Dog Man' sterotype - far from it, they are considered butch and alpha male!

As regular readers to this blog know, I hate steretyping of both the childfree and parents - it's far too easy to sling silly insults at people who have choosen a different path in life!!

Wednesday, 10 December 2008

Update on the book!

Hello readers!

Well, I have been a very poor blogger of late - I have been doing about 6 zillion other things lately - including a leadership programme, building my coaching practice and doing more fundraising consultancy work with various not-for-profits in London. So the blog has suffered!

I thought I would give you all an update on the book 'Baby or Not?' - a publisher is still being sought by myself and my literary agent! I guess now is not the best time in the world to try to get a book deal!

I might look at self-publishing or an e-book - if anyone out there knows of a publisher who might be interested, do get in touch!

Thursday, 4 December 2008

Advice from Miriam Stoppard on the decision to have children or not

Here is Miriam Stoppard giving some advice on the decision whether to have children or not in her blog at the Mirror.

It's fairly sensible advice. The only thing I'd say is that - in my experience coaching women on the issue - is that often, there are fears that need to be addressed when looking at the issue. If it was just a matter - for instance - just of finance, it wouldn't be such a difficult or emotional decision.

And, the big difficulty is, when one partner wants kids - and the other doesn't. How you resolve that can be very tricky - as there is no compromising.