One to One Coaching

I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit for more information about my coaching services.

Wednesday, 17 September 2008

Single Mothers by Choice

An article appeared today in the Guardian looking at the phenomena of women who are choosing to be single parents. It confirmed a choice that I see alot of my clients making - to stop waiting for the partner who hasn't materialised yet or to leave a partner who doesn't want children and go it alone.

It's interesting - because as the article points out, usually heterosexual women wait to look at assisted donor conception untill they have given up on the male partner. And, as more of us become aware of the limitations on our fertility, this is an option that women are aware needs to be made sooner rather than later. Yet, the implications are huge - for some women it means giving up on the 'dream' of having a traditional family. And, of course, being a single parent means that it can be difficult to get into a relationship.

But for most of the women who have choosen this option - there is very little regret and, the benefits outweigh the downsides.

Friday, 12 September 2008

Almost half of women in the financial industry forgo having children

This article appeared last weekend. It turns out that almost half of women in the financial industry in the UK aren't having children.

The question is - is this out of a positive choice to remain childfree? Or is it out of a sense that one can't have children and work in the industry?

Thursday, 4 September 2008

Should I be a mother?

This is a very interesing problem that appeared in the Guardian's once a week advice column.

The writer asks if she should be a mother as she came from a dysfunctional family. In essense, she is fearful that she will be repeating old patterns of behaviour and dysfunction with her own child.

My advice is that fear should never be in charge of you making this decision. Making the decision to have a child or not out of fear is not a good place to be. Far better is to throw a spotlight on the fear and challenge it and then ask yourself if you want kids.