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Sunday, 25 August 2013

Does your personality affect your decision to have children or not?

Now, this is definitely something new! A new research study has shown that personality traits affect your decision to have children or not.  A newspaper report about the study says that men who are extrovert and open are more likely to have children than men who are moody and women who are rated as conscientious tend to have fewer or no children.  Looking at the original abstract of the report entitled 'Personality Traits increasing important for male fertility', the authors say that neurotic men (popularly know as moodiness are less likely to have children. The authors say that  'Men that have certain personality traits may increasingly be avoiding the long-term commitment of having children, or their female partners are shunning entering this type of commitment with them'  I really find this interesting!


Monday, 19 August 2013

The Motherhood Conundrum - to have kids or not?

Hello all - I had some problems with the formatting of my last two blog posts - sorry about that for any readers who stopped by the blog yesterday. 

So, I found this good 1st person piece in the Telegraph newspaper called The Motherhood Conundrum - To breed or not to breed?  It reflects many of issues that my coaching clients come to me about.  The author mentions that at 34 she doesn't think she wants kids but this could change.  Personally, I think it's a very good idea to try to work through the issue and the decision as much as you can before your late 30's because, as the author of this article points out, fertility does get more tricky as you get older. Obvisously, I do see clients who are in their late 30's or early 40's.  And then, sometimes the decision can also be about whether they want kids enough to go down the IVF route or be willing to look at adoption. 

Sunday, 18 August 2013

Why have children

An interesting article  The Benefits of Having Children responding to the Time article - this from a woman who decided to have a large family despite not initally having maternal instincts.

Friday, 9 August 2013

The Childfree Life - article in Time magazine

I'm coming late to the Time article on being child free as I have spent the last few days on an island with no electricity or wifi - bliss!  Anyway, here is the link to the article called The Childfree Life

It seems to be a fairly positive piece - although one commentator I read felt it was stirring up conflict between the child free and parents. What do you think?,9171,2148636,00.html#ixzz2bDWe74Yf

Thursday, 8 August 2013

Intelligent Women less likely to have children

Great commentary in the Guardian this weekend which critiqued a report which was critical of intelligent women who choose not to have children

I particularly like her ending paragraph

"Anyone who is genuinely concerned with falling birthrates should be supporting policies such as paid maternity leave, subsidized day care, flexible work schedules, affordable health care and so on that would make it feasible for more women who want babies to have them. As for the women who don't, we should be grateful in the knowledge that they are intelligent enough to make the choice that is best for them and then back off with the judgement"

Sunday, 4 August 2013

Should I have a child if I have a disablity or chronic health problem?

An interesting and thoughtful article on a difficult subject Should Disabled People have Children?  The author Elaine Benton has two chronic diseases and decided on balance, that having a child was the right decision for her.

I sometimes have clients who come to me and one of the reasons they are debating whether to have children or not is because they have a health condition or mental health problem.  I always recommend clients speak to a doctor if they haven't already.  And usually they have been given the medical 'go-ahead' to try for a child but often the clients have fears around whether it is fair on the child or whether they would be a good mother or not. 

I like this article because it is very thoughtful and positive about the decision she made.