One to One Coaching

I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit for more information about my coaching services.

Monday, 31 March 2014

More women over 50 having babies than ever before

This was just published today showing that the number of babies born to women over 50 has doubled in the last four years.  As fertility treatments become more effective, older women are able to have children later in life as they delay the decision to have children for many reasons.

Sunday, 23 March 2014

Does choice make us happy?

One of the things I have said over the years that one of the un-intended consequences of having so many more options in our lives - and of being able to make a viable choice to be Childfree is that it ironically makes the decision to have children or not much harder than for the women who came before us.  I would hate to return to pre- feminist days but we have to deal with how we make this choice in the complex world we live in today.  Here is an interesting talk and look at the problematic nature of choice in the modern world. 

Thursday, 13 March 2014

Advice to a woman who wants a baby but her boyfriend doesn't

I found this advice column today on the above issue.  I do disagree with most of the advice given - although I do agree it's important to ask your partner about his worries and concerns.  I think that at 29 and having lived together for three years, it's perfectly reasonable to say to a partner that you would like to start trying for a child.  However, it is true that turning the issue into a conflict can push the person who is unsure about wanting children away.  A better approach, in my opinion having working with women in this very situation would be to suggest a break from the discussion and a return to contraception for a set period - say 6 months.   But then say that at the end of this period, a frank discussion about the future of the relationship and having children will need to be had.

Tuesday, 11 March 2014

Savvy Auntie

I love this website! Called Savvy Auntie, it's for women who are happy being childfree but who do like having a connection with children. I mentioned them in my book 'Baby or Not?'  Great idea! 

Monday, 3 March 2014

Childless by Marriage

Just wanted to mention a great blog called Childless by Marriage - it is specifically for people whose partners are unable to have children or who do not want children.  Sue, who writes the blog has also written an ebook - available on Amazon.  I've been aware of Sue's work for a while and I think it's so important.  As I've mentioned before, I see a number of clients in this situation and it is a very difficult place to be.  The more people like Sue are writing and talking about his issue the better as it can make people in the situation feel very along.