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Monday, 25 June 2012

Respecting the choice to have children or not

Short & humourous look at the issue of asking people about their decision on whether to have kids or not - yup. It's all about respect!

Tuesday, 12 June 2012

It's not only us commoners who are wondering whether to have kids or not...

Even the Royals have to struggle with the decision to have a child or not!  To be fair, it's mainly a 'now or later' decision for them but interesting to see how the issue of career has impacted their decision to have children.

Thursday, 7 June 2012

How rational is the decision to have child?

I've been thinking a lot about the role of rationality in making the decision to have kids.  One thing that interests me is that many clients come to me having tried to work out the decision in a very rational, logical way.  Some are in very rational professions - scientists, fiance, etc. And yet, in this decision, over-reliance on the rational can actually be a hindrance.  As I have said before in the blog, this is a decision in which we need to be able to access the un-rational side of ourselves, or our intuition.  I think this short article points to some of the problems with viewing the decision as strictly a logical choice.

Monday, 4 June 2012

Leaving a relationship because he doesn't want kids

This morning, I was talking to my associate Judy Van Zon (who coaches couples around the decision to have children or not) and she was saying that she wished couples would come earlier to coaching rather than see it as a 'last-ditch' thing to do.  Judy is going to be writing regular features on this blog so keep your eyes out for her posts which will start soon.

After our conversation,  I stumbled across this first person piece written by a woman who felt she had to leave the husband she loved in order to be a mother.  She had to make a terribly difficult decision which I have seen many of my clients faced with.   And often, it is left fairly late in the relationship to do (as the writer points out).  In relationship coaching, we encourage people to come to the coaching before things get to the state where you are planning on leaving the relationship.  It doesn't guarantee a different outcome but it means that you and your partner will be able to work through the issues together, learning how to communicate better and see if you can develop a joint vision of your relationship.

I'm looking forward to reading Judy's thoughts on the issue on the blog - and hoping her words will help more couples in the future.

Sunday, 3 June 2012

Australia's Leading Woman Chef 'I put kids off because I love my job'

One of the themes I'm often exploring with clients is how having a child will affect their career.  Contrary to popular belief, it is not just women in the corporate or finance sector that are affected. I find that an equal number of clients come from the creative, media and other industries.  One of those industries is hospitality.  In this interview, one of Australia's leading female chefs talks about the challenges of working as a woman in her industry.

'But other factors that have disadvantaged female chefs cannot be brushed aside. Ribaux says young female chefs have to think long term. "If you want to get into restaurants, do you want kids? As a female, you have more worries about the future."
"I always wanted to be a young mum. But I love my job, a lot. So I've decided to put kids off.'

For the full interview, go to Wanted: Women