One to One Coaching

I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at mailto:beth@ticktockcoaching.co.uk and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit http://www.ticktockcoaching.co.uk/ for more information about my coaching services.

Thursday, 30 October 2014

It's still baffles me why choosing to be Childfree is controversial. This writer talks about why they are happy with their choice.

Becoming a single mom by choice

If you do decide you want children but your partner doesn't or you haven't met the right partner, one of the decisions you could be wrestling with is whether you want to become a single mother by choice.  The website Single Mothers by Choice  is a great resource for all those thinking about becoming a single mum by choice.

I often work with women who are just starting to consider this option.  It can be very difficult to contemplate it however because it often means giving up on the dream of having a child with a partner - this is particularly difficult if you have just finished a relationship with someone who doesn't want children.   It's important in the coaching to give space to mourning and acknowledging the sadness of letting go of this dream before moving on.

Monday, 27 October 2014

Saturday, 25 October 2014

Can a woman be happy without having children?

Its a shame that this is even a question  in this day but this is a great positive article from a woman who is happy to be childfree!

Wednesday, 22 October 2014

Perspective from one of my coaching clients

'I had come to a point in my relationship where I was going to have to make a tough decision either way, and I wanted to make sure that firstly it was the right one (although I was sure it was), and secondly how to go about doing it in a calm and controlled manner.  Beth was completely unbiased, which I really appreciated as this isn't the case with my family, friends, and partner.  The coaching gave me tools to go through my decision making process, alongside anxiety-reducing techniques.

I needed the space that Beth provided to look at myself and my future, and how I was going to make it what I wanted with or without my partner.  It felt very selfish but the result has been for the benefit of both of us and I would absolutely recommend her services to anyone going through the life-changing decision of whether to have a child or not.'   ~ Sarah, health care worker, 33

(from a testimonial written by a client who recently completed coaching with me)

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Tuesday, 21 October 2014

Eight Years of TickTock Coaching - Anniversary Newsletter


It's hard to believe that it's been eight years since I started TickTock Coaching.   Eight years ago, I was very uncertain about whether it was possible for me to develop a viable coaching practice - particularly one with such a unique niche! But, after being featured in a few media pieces and through developing my Children or Not blog, clients who needed my services were able to find me. Thanks to all of you - clients, former clients and colleagues who have helped me make my coaching practice a success!

And now, what's new with me and TickTock Coaching:

Feature in the Times and Media Requests - I'm going to be featured in the Times newspaper in a few weeks, I'll be featured in a profile in the T2 supplement for my work coaching women (and occasionally men) trying to decide whether to have children or not.  I'll be sending round another email with a link to the article when it comes out.

I sometimes get asked if any former clients would speak to journalists - if you are happy to be interviewed by a journalist (often you can be anonymous in the articles) please get in touch as I am putting together a list of clients who are happy to be contacted about media requests.

Leadership Coaching & Training in Organisations - In addition to my life coaching work, I also coach people within organisations and I provide Leadership workshops. If you are interested in finding our more, please contact me or go to my website http://www.bodycentredleadership.com

Life Coaching - The mainstay of my life coaching work is coaching around the 'baby decision' but I often see former clients (or their friends who have been referred to me) who want coaching on other issues such as life/work balance or career so don't hesitate to get in touch.

Inspiring Video - As regular readers of my e-newsletter know, I always like to leave you with a poem or inspiring video.  This is a great video on relationships from Dan Savage! I love his notion that you need to identify a handful of non-negotiable's  in relationships and then, after that be prepared to compromise  You can view the short video here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r1tCAXVsClw

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Monday, 20 October 2014

Excellent article on the problem behind the Apple and Facebook offer to pay for women to freeze their eggs.  http://www.alternet.org/how-facebook-and-apples-egg-freezing-policies-hurt-working-women

Motherhood wasn't for me.

Great article in the Guardian Family Section this weekend from  woman talking about her decision not to have children in this article Motherhood Wasn't for Me

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Wednesday, 15 October 2014

Paying Women to Freeze their eggs - A Sticking Plaster over the issue of Inequality in the Workplace for Mothers

So this was just announced today that Apple and Facebook are going to pay women employees to freeze their eggs so they can have children later and not worry about being railroaded in their career track.  

I really feel this is problematic on so many levels.   Surely we as a society should be asking ourselves why is it more difficult for women to have a successful career once they have children than it is for men.

I also think it might give women a false sense of security - there are many factors leading to infertility and I just don't think the data is conclusive that freezing eggs leads to a massively increased fertility when you are over 40.

As a coach, I do think it would be more beneficial for these companies to pay for coaching to help women work out what they are wanting for themselves in terms of having children or not before paying for an expensive and invasive medical procedure.

But my main issue is that there are structural inequalities and discrimination faces by women and mothers needs to be addressed first.  This feels like an ineffective sticking paster on a much larger issue.