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I offer free 30 minute telephone/Skype consultations for people wanting to find out more about coaching on the 'baby decision'. Email me at mailto:beth@ticktockcoaching.co.uk and assistant Laura will respond and arrange an appointment with you. Visit http://www.ticktockcoaching.co.uk/ for more information about my coaching services.

Monday, 1 September 2014

I just saw this fantastic video from Dan Savage on compromise and long term relationships that I wanted to share.  It's called The Price of Admission

Although it's not directly on the baby decision, I've posted it here because a key issue for clients of mine who do want a baby but their partners don't is whether the 'baby decision' is a non-negotiable OR area of compromise. 

In the video above, Dan Savage is encouraging us to get clear about non-negotiables vs the usual irritations. 

Sunday, 31 August 2014

What do parents wish they knew before becoming parents?

So today, I found this nice article - aimed more at people who have decided to have children but I thought this this in 10 things I wished I had known before becoming a parent is pretty good for those trying to make the decision as well.  And I do agree with much of the list - particularly point number two!

Saturday, 30 August 2014

Jennifer Ainston: Questions about children are not fair

Jennifer Ainston recently gave an interview where she spoke out against the constant speculation on whether she was going to have children or not.  http://www.people.com/article/jennifer-aniston-justin-theroux-kids

Friday, 29 August 2014

Your greatest achievement

Sometimes parents say that having children is the greatest achievement of their lives. For this woman, not having kids was her greatest achievement.

http://www.salon.com/2014/02/11/9_reasons_not_having_kids_is_the_best_decision_i_ever_made_partner


Wednesday, 27 August 2014

Saturday, 23 August 2014

Interesting discussion in the decision whether to have kids or not here - in some cultures and communities the idea of having a choice is not even considered.  http://exmormon.org/phorum/read.php?2,1359154,1359154

Thursday, 21 August 2014

Egg Freezing Parties

Well, this is something new to me..... I went to an egg freezing party

So egg freezing has been around for a while and it seems to have become more popular of late. As the article notes, a wide range of women are interested in exploring this option:

'The Eggbanxx event was not filled with women waiting around to be inseminated, but women who had serious questions about the opportunity costs and rate of return on a potential investment. The tone was less "I can't find a husband," and closer to, "I can't be bothered to look for one."
Or maybe you do have a husband. Or you don't have one anymore. Or you don't want one. Or you have a wife. It's not just single women who are exploring egg freezing. Gay and straight couples are also utilizing the technology. Several attendees at Eggbanxx already had children, but were investigating the option of freezing embryos -- an egg fertilized by sperm outside the body -- to relieve the urgency of having more kids right away.'

Wednesday, 20 August 2014

Respecting each other

This article is SPOT on!  Can't Parents and Non-Parents Just Get Along?    http://o.canada.com/life/parenting/dad-in-training-cant-parents-and-non-parents-just-get-along

We need to respect the different (and equally valid choices) that people make around deciding whether to be a parent or not.   


When to say 'I do not want to have kids' to people I am dating?

In this advice column, I don't want to have kids a man asks for advice when he should tell women he is dating that he does not want to be a parent

I would STRONGLY advise to anyone in this situation that the topic really needs to be bought up as soon as possible - it is better to let women who do want children know this from the outset - it will save many a painful and difficult conversation later.

I see a number of clients who do want children but find themselves in relationships with people who don't.    Sometimes the childfree partners have been clear all along.  Sometimes they haven't realised they didn't want children when they started the relationship - this is understandable as many of us aren't totally clear what we may want in the future.

But if you are clear and do know you don't want to have children, have the conversation early on with your partner. 


Friday, 15 August 2014

How to make a decision

Great advice here on 'How to Make a Decision'.

I agree with much of what this article recommends.  I'd add however that sometimes it's difficult to do some of the points - particularly to have confidence and believe in yourself AND to approach the decision in a positive frame of mind.

That's where coaching comes in - much of what I do as a coach is about helping clients find ways to  shift their mindset from a negative or stuck place, to a mindset which is a more positive place to explore the decision.

I also help clients become more confident in themselves and believe they have the answer within them. 

Saturday, 9 August 2014

Monday, 4 August 2014

I was recently asked my opinion ion whether there is a best time to have children in ones life - it's for an article in Cosmo UK that should be out in a few months.  But I recently came across this article that is very pro having children when you are in your 20's which is not often an argument I hear.