Should I be a mother?

This is a very interesing problem that appeared in the Guardian's once a week advice column.

The writer asks if she should be a mother as she came from a dysfunctional family. In essense, she is fearful that she will be repeating old patterns of behaviour and dysfunction with her own child.

My advice is that fear should never be in charge of you making this decision. Making the decision to have a child or not out of fear is not a good place to be. Far better is to throw a spotlight on the fear and challenge it and then ask yourself if you want kids.