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Tuesday, 27 June 2017
Do I want a baby enough to go through IVF and ongoing fertility treatment
I've sometimes worked with clients who, if they could have gotten pregnant naturally, would not be struggling with the decision. But the stress and heartache of IVF forces people to ask themselves the question. Do I want to go through IVF? Do I want a child enough to go through what can be a long and difficult process? Will I regret it if I don't do everything in my power to have a child?
This article Motherhood and Waiting Takeover explores the journey of IVF and how the waiting takes over your body and your life.
'It is not just the takeover of your body that makes IVF so challenging, but the takeover of your schedule, your life. Every-other-morning appointments, waiting by the phone for news about the results of blood draws, timing injections precisely, ordering more medication or procuring discounted or free leftovers from women finished with their cycles: it all takes time'
Clients who have tried to have a child naturally and are now facing the decision to go through IVF often feel guilty and worried. A common theme is 'I've wanted this and now that there are some challenges, I'm questioning whether I do want children because if I really did, I would go through anything.'
I believe that it's important to give ourselves permission to make the choice not to go through with a difficult and stressful medical procedure. Many times clients say that they are not keen to go into IVF but they feel that they should, that they should try everything or else they will regret it. Yet, when we are kind to ourselves and give ourselves permission to let go of guilt and the 'I should' we can make the choice that is right for us.
When clients do this, sometimes they realise that it's ok to make a decision based on the context. It's not giving up to say that in this circumstance, I have decided not to have children. And then, sometimes sometimes they decide that they will try IVF but without the same negative feelings of guilt or worry pushing them to do so.