Are you ready to have children?

One of the issues that comes up for people coming to me who are unsure whether they want to have children or not is around whether there is a ‘right time’ to have children or not.

 

The pressure of the biological clock often means that people can feel pressured into having children before they feel ready.  Once you are in your mid-30’s, it can feel like you don’t have time enough to be in the ‘right’ place for having children. 

 

My approach is to take clients through their fears around not being ready enough and we question them together

 

• Finance - How much finance do they think they need? Is that realistic? Could they manage on less?
• Career - How could they manage the focus on their career and child-raising? What compromises could they and their partner make? What role models can they find in their industry who manage work and kids well? What strategies could they put into place?
• Personal Freedom – What else would they like to do before they have children? How could they still ensure they have some freedom and the ability to have adventure even after they have children?