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Monday, 25 December 2017
'So when are you having a baby?' - Surviving Intrusive Questions Over The Holidays
For many women struggling the decision of whether to have children or not, Christmas can be a particularly stressful time. The focus on Christmas as a time for families and children can be overwhelming - and when you are trying to decide whether to have children or not, it is not great when distant family members at Christmas family gatherings comment or ask questions about whether you will have children yourself.
I recommend this exercise to help my clients deal with situations of overwhelm and stress. AND it's also helps in clearing your head and approaching challenging questions from relatives from a place of centre and wholeness.
Take a moment now to find yourself a seated position where you can sit upright – preferably with your hips being a little higher than your knees.
1. Take a breath in and imagine that breath travelling up your back, giving you uplift through your spine and neck and out the top of your head. Then, on the exhalation, imagine your breath travelling down your front, softening those muscles in the front (without losing the uplift in your spine)
2. Imagine you can extend your energy out around you to about 12 – 14 inches around your whole body. Take a moment to check if this bubble of energy is equal at your front and back, to your left and right and above and below you.
3. Let gravity take the weight of your shoulders and chin.
4. Now think of a quality that you would like alittle bit more of – ease, or centeredness or inclusion. Ask yourself the question ‘What would it be like if I had a little bit more of this quality in my body right now?’ Listen to the answer you receive from your body.
And now, return to either the baby decision or the family gathering/pressure from friends and family - whatever is causing you to feel overwhelmed – do you feel more present, more centred, more able to enter these next few weeks with more ease and flow? You can take the above exercise and streamline it when you need to – just take 10 seconds several times a day to breath, sense your field of energy and invoke your quality.
I also discovered this advice on a UK Quaker webiste called Courageous conversations over Christmas - if you can combine the above exercise to help you centre with the advice around having courageous conversations then you might be able to make it through the Christmas season with less stress and more authentic conversations with your family about the 'baby decision.'