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Monday, 25 June 2018
Tracee Ellis - I'm tired of people asking me about whether I'm going to have children
This was reflected in a recent interview with Tracee Ellis, the start of the amazing US show 'Blackish'. (Note: I LOVE this show by the way - it is shown sometimes here in the UK television but doesn't have a regular, mainstream slot so I pick it up on Amazon Prime. It's focused on a Black middle class family in the US and it's is funny AND packs a a powerful political message in every episode.)
As reported in this article Black-ish’ Star Tracee Ellis Ross Sets the Record Straight on Her Decision Not to Have Children (Yet)
"Well, I will say two things. I have not made a final decision that I am not having children. It is a personal choice that I will make when I’m comfortable, and it’s not a conversation that I have with people. I also want to be clear that my choices around being a mother have nothing to do with my career, they are not connected."
I have a theory that people feel comfortable asking women about this personal choice because we still see women's choices around fertility and pro-creation as being in the public realm. It's still viewed as a decision that everyone can comment upon! And it doesn't stop when you have made the decision. If you decide to have children, then you will find people commenting on your pregnancy (what you should or shouldn't eat or drink for instance or finding complete strangers commenting on your 'Baby Bump'). And often, people who have decided not to have children will find people asking why or making comments on their choice. In a post I wrote last year, I give some helpful hints on how to deal with intrusive questions in this blog post on Surviving Intrusive Questions
And if you need a snappy retort to someone who is speculating on your fertility status, you can always refer to the great Eleanor Roosevelt once said 'Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.'