Some challenges facing couples in making the decision to have a baby or not

Following on from my post yesterday, I thought I would outline some of the problems that face couples in making this decision. Often, both partners are equally unsure about which decision to make - and they want to work together to find out what they both wants and what their relationship is wanting. In relationship coaching, we talk about the 'third entity' of the relationship - and this is a helpful way of thinking beyond what each partner wants. Think 'What does the relationship want?'

In more difficult situations, one person will want to have children and the other not. OR another likely situation is that one person wants children OR doesn't want children and the other person is unsure. This lack of clarity can be frustrating for both.

In many cases, it will be helpful for the person who is unsure to work - either on their own or with someone like me - to decide what it is they really do want before working with their partner in something like couples coaching