How to decide whether to have kids when faced with the choice between freedom and responsibility?

One of the common polarities I see clients struggling with when trying to decide whether to have kids or not is the polarity of 'freedom' vs 'responsibility/committment'? Many of us think we have to make an either or choice when it comes to polarities like this.

But in my experience, polarities like this are inter-dependent on each other. Therefore, we need both freedom and responsiblity. Through exploring each pole in a polarity, we can see that there are both positive and negative aspects in each pole. And then, we see what changes when we experience more fludity between the two - so that instead of having to make and 'either/or' choice between freedom and responsibility, we can have 'yes and' wisdom.