And this is a common fear. Particularly for those of us in our mid-30's - if we have fought or struggled with self-doubt or with building up our career, it can seem like a risk to give up our hard won idenity.
Yet, I firmly believe that having a child does not fundamentally change who we are. When I'm coaching a woman who can't decide whether she wants children or not , we spend time on looking at who she is when she is at her most positive & confident. Early on we do an exercise looking at values and what her core values are. While how she will live out these values might change if she decides to be a mother, these values - which are a huge part of her identity - do not fundamentally change.