A perspective on the issue from Jamaica
Well, I came across this article in the Jamaica Observer.
On one level, it neatly outlined the dilemma for many women - as we've explored in the blog, more women are aware of the limitations of fertility.
And, if they are in their mid 30's with no partner and they want kids, the situation could look bleak.
However, I found this article rather limited in terms of options they present - I sent in this letter to the paper which, I hope they print as I think women reading the article, might feel like their only option is to march any bloke up to the wedding chapel!
Dear Editor,
Many women in different parts of the world are experiencing the same difficult decisions. I'm a life coach specialising in coaching women in the UK and (via the phone) in other parts of the world including the US, Canada, and Australia.The issue varies from woman to woman.
For some, they have found the man they want to spend the rest of their life with - but he is saying he doesn't know if he wants kids yet because he is too young or not ready! This leave the women in a difficult position - do they wait, knowing that their biological clock is ticking or leave to find another relationship or, have a child as a single parent? It is becoming more and more culturally acceptable in many parts of the world to have a child as a single parent - and this might be an option for some of your readers. Rather than drag an unsuitable man into marriage if you want a baby, an option could be to have a child on your own.
Some of the women I coach don't actually really want children but feel pressured by friends, family, their church etc into having children. When that is the case it may be, that with abit of support they are able to be clearer to their friends/family about why they have choosen to live a child-free life.
On one level, it neatly outlined the dilemma for many women - as we've explored in the blog, more women are aware of the limitations of fertility.
And, if they are in their mid 30's with no partner and they want kids, the situation could look bleak.
However, I found this article rather limited in terms of options they present - I sent in this letter to the paper which, I hope they print as I think women reading the article, might feel like their only option is to march any bloke up to the wedding chapel!
Dear Editor,
Many women in different parts of the world are experiencing the same difficult decisions. I'm a life coach specialising in coaching women in the UK and (via the phone) in other parts of the world including the US, Canada, and Australia.The issue varies from woman to woman.
For some, they have found the man they want to spend the rest of their life with - but he is saying he doesn't know if he wants kids yet because he is too young or not ready! This leave the women in a difficult position - do they wait, knowing that their biological clock is ticking or leave to find another relationship or, have a child as a single parent? It is becoming more and more culturally acceptable in many parts of the world to have a child as a single parent - and this might be an option for some of your readers. Rather than drag an unsuitable man into marriage if you want a baby, an option could be to have a child on your own.
Some of the women I coach don't actually really want children but feel pressured by friends, family, their church etc into having children. When that is the case it may be, that with abit of support they are able to be clearer to their friends/family about why they have choosen to live a child-free life.
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